With a new year also come new changes: growth and more importantly, reflection. Some individuals find themselves in deep thought about their past years and can pin-point the different events and situations that have led them to the moment in their life that has molded them into the person they are today. As we grow in many ways and get older we experience more and have the ability to reason more (or not), but what about our younger years? The years that we as studs/butches/AG’s struggled to fit in but all we did was stick out. If you had the chance to converse with your younger self what would you say?
The young days, we can all remember the days when we were young and full of energy. Trying to understand who we were and who we were and still are comfortable in being, ourselves!
Within every circle/community, people criticize and judge values and viewpoints that are different from their own. But our very criticisms and judgments can get out of hand and may also provoke us to think about the reasons we even have certain perspectives and beliefs in the first place.
As studs, we may find commonalities or comfort with male friendships. While any friendship may have a host of positive and negative aspects, the dialogue that happens between males and studs can be complex at times. Males may view you as a peer \"bro\" in some instances, but then switch up and see you more as a sexual object.
As studs, sometimes we find comfortability within male friendships. Unfortunately, there are many reasons why being around them is not the most liberating at times. Shots towards our gender are the worst of the low blows directed at us.
Whether you consider yourself within, a part of or outside of the community, we can all attest to the importance and value of communication. If this was the situation: There are two close masculine women friends. One stud is in a relationship and has a girlfriend and the other stud is close to her friend\'s girlfriend. They chill and text each other sometimes which has been troubling the stud who is in the relationship.
Friends are friends and crews are crews. We all have people with whom we go to the mall with, study with, roll to the clubs with or just kick it with. But there is one thing that I noticed about stud friendships; we stick together, whether it be in crews or in small pairs of one or two.